當天我們一家人在德國小鎮散步，考量到盧娜可能會走累，我們帶著一台推車以備不時之需。正當我們逛到一半時，我注意到盧娜一直低頭看著自己的鞋子，表情似乎有些不對勁。起初我以為只是鞋子不舒服，但仔細一看才發現，她的鞋子上沾了狗大便，而推車也因此被弄髒了。
我們當下第一反應是立刻回飯店清理乾淨鞋子和推車，於是告訴盧娜我們要回去。沒想到，她卻突然情緒大爆發，直接坐在地上大哭。她的哭聲引來路人的注意，但她完全不在意，只是不停地表達她的抗拒和難過。我嘗試冷靜解釋給她聽，這件事不是她的錯，誰都有可能踩到大便，我們只是想幫她把東西弄乾淨，但盧娜似乎聽不進去。（是完全聽不進去）
她大哭了將近15分鐘，哭到人家以為虐童的哭聲，我們也只能靜靜地陪著她，沒有強行帶她走。（米拉很成熟的一直陪在盧娜旁邊）
最後，她終於說出她的條件，她想爸爸抱，但由於鞋子髒了，我們把鞋子脫下來放進推車，爸爸才抱著她一路回到飯店。
一路上我開始反思，是否我們的反應讓盧娜覺得自己犯了大錯，甚至以為我們對她感到失望。也許在她的小腦袋裡，踩到大便這件事是一種「錯誤」，讓她感到害怕和自責。回到飯店後，我們等她完全冷靜下來，才好好跟她解釋這件事不是她的責任，也沒有人會怪她。
我們告訴她，這只是生活中會遇到的小插曲，最重要的是，她不需要隱瞞任何事情。無論發生什麼，我們都會在她身邊，幫助她一起解決問題。盧娜聽完後終於露出了笑容，點頭答應以後有事情會主動告訴我們。
這次的小意外讓我們更深刻地體會到，孩子的情緒往往比事件本身更需要被關注和理解。我們學到的，不只是怎麼處理髒鞋子，而是怎麼更用心地站在孩子的角度，看待她的感受。 #情緒 #情緒管理 #孩子感受 #育兒 #育兒日記 #育兒日常 #育兒生活 #正向教養 #教養 #平常心 #盧米媽 #盧米媽質感選物社 #盧米媽開講
That day, our family was strolling through a small town in Germany. Since Luna might get tired from walking, we brought a stroller just in case.
Halfway through our walk, I noticed Luna constantly looking down at her shoes, her expression uneasy. At first, I thought her shoes were uncomfortable, but when I looked closer, I realized she had stepped in dog poop—and in the process, it had also gotten onto the stroller.
Our immediate reaction was to head back to the hotel to clean everything up. We calmly told Luna about our plan, but to our surprise, she suddenly had a huge emotional meltdown. She sat down on the ground and started crying uncontrollably. Her cries caught the attention of people passing by, but she didn’t care—she just kept expressing her distress and refusal to leave.
I tried to explain to her as calmly as possible that this wasn’t her fault. Stepping in poop happens to everyone, and we just needed to clean up. But she wouldn’t listen at all—completely shut down to anything I said.
She cried for almost 15 minutes, loud enough to make people think something terrible had happened. But instead of forcing her to move, we simply stayed with her. Mila, being incredibly mature, stayed right by her side the whole time.
Finally, Luna expressed what she wanted—she wanted Daddy to carry her. Since her shoes were dirty, we took them off and placed them in the stroller before Daddy carried her all the way back to the hotel.
Reflecting on the Moment
On the way back, I started reflecting: Did our reaction make her feel like she had done something terribly wrong? Did she think we were disappointed in her?
Maybe, in her little mind, stepping in dog poop felt like a mistake, something she should feel guilty about. Maybe she was scared, not of the mess, but of the possibility that she had done something "bad."
Once we got back to the hotel and she had completely calmed down, we sat down and talked to her again. We reassured her that this wasn’t her fault and that nobody was upset with her.
We told her that this was just a small, unexpected moment in life, and what truly mattered was that she never needed to hide anything from us. No matter what happens, we will always be there to help her find a solution.
Hearing this, Luna finally smiled and nodded, agreeing that next time, she would tell us if something was bothering her.
This little incident made us realize, once again, that a child’s emotions often need more attention than the event itself.
What we truly learned that day wasn’t just how to clean dirty shoes, but how to be more present, more understanding, and truly see things from a child’s perspective. ❤️
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